We start out so young and innocent, ready to jump in with both feet and believe in the fairytale. That naivety lasts as long as our first real heartbreak, and then we begin the process of becoming more guarded. We try again and again, and our hearts become more closed off with each bad experience. After being cheated on, lied to, ghosted, and just generally treated like dirt, we naturally become jaded and develop some major trust issues. As women, we want to love.
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Trust is non-negotiable. It's one of the major tenants of any healthy relationship. It just makes things more complicated. Writer Mike Bundrant of PsychCentral pointed out that, "Hanging onto past hurt and expecting more of it becomes a self-sabotaging, self-fulfilling prophecy. On the other hand, gaining someone's trust when they aren't sure they want to give it is a lot of work. Only you can decide if it's worth it and it can be worth it.
I've had a rough life, I don't open up to people very easily, and I have my heart heavily guarded. I don't let people in easily, because I've learned they will only walk away anyways. When it comes to relationships, I have a hard time trusting the guy. I've always felt extremely insecure, the guy who was supposed to set the example of the kind of guy I wanted to spend my life with, walked out on me when I was 12, and didn't care to love me like he should of, because of him, I've always been terrified of relationships. I've had boyfriends on and off, but they never stuck around for too long because they realized how broken I was.
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